In There Time


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Be Mindful of the Company You Keep


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Dare 2 Be You


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It’s OK

Its ok to let go of that person who does not enhance your life, respect you, love you, or honor you as you do for them….do not give your soul to someone who will not appreciate the sacrifice

Published in: on January 13, 2015 at 11:48 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Who are you?

Who are you? Not the physical you but the mental spiritual and emotional you that is needed to operate your physical self. You’re reading this like this child done lost her mind lol.

However think about it. If you’re in a car accident & they can only save your brain & you wake up in someone else’s body; are you still you. If no one knew of the transplant how would you convince everyone you are you. What makes you you? Is it your memories, your attitude, your actions, what are you recognized or known for? What one action, word, or gesture defines you. And once you identify those things are they something you can be proud of or ashamed of because that’s the true point of this question.

Is the person you believe you are someone to be proud of, respected & loved. Will your family be glad you survived even if you’re in a different body or pretend that you are insane and leave you in the hospital

Published in: on January 3, 2015 at 11:09 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Loving Me & Putting Myself First

If we go by what the bible states Eve was created to be Adams companion so basically women have a biological urge to be with someone however I believe we often let that urge coupled with sexual tensions over power our good sense & engage in unhealthy relationships. We want love so badly that we lower every thing about ourselves; our standards, self-esteem, self-respect & forget to love ourselves not realizing by not knowing our own worth we prevent other people from knowing it as well. The first person to show you love & respect is yourself. People learn things by seeing & doing do so we must love & respect ourselves so the person we allow in our lives knows what they must do to be stay in our life..its ok to put someone else’s needs ahead of yours as long as you don’t forget your own. Just my humble thoughts & observations as I learn to show myself love & respect.

Published in: on August 11, 2014 at 11:35 pm  Leave a Comment  
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‪‎I’m Still Learning‬ how to Stop Play the Victim

It took some time and I still back slide but I’ve learned to look at myself when relationships don’t turn out the way I want them to. I’m always quick to point out the other person’s flaws & mistakes without looking at myself to see how I contributed to the failure of the relationship. You can stand back & think/say you did everything right but truth is you didn’t. It takes two to make a relationship work & fail.

Some of my flaws are I don’t speak up right away when someone over steps my personal boundaries but when they call me out for my misstep I pop off & list everything they’ve done to me catching them off guard & unable to defend or apologize for the offense because they have already forgotten about it… I find it extremely hard to forgive which is a death sentence to any relationship… I’ve been single too long & sometimes I just don’t want to compromise or put forth the effort.. I stay in the relationship way past it’s expiration date.. I fall for men who are unavailable whether emotionally, mentally or physically… I’m too damn independent & sometimes forget to let the man be in charge

We all do something to cause our relationships to fail we just choose to ignore it but I challenge you to be real with yourself, stop playing the victim, own up to the bull we dish out & make efforts to change so the next relationship will be the best & the last.

I have a page on face called I’m Still Learning. This is where I have been posting lately.


Published in: on May 18, 2014 at 5:54 pm  Leave a Comment  

Dear John

I’m sorry I’ve been distant these past few weeks but I just needed to sort some things out. I believe it’s best for me to go back to how I was and just focus on the kids and nothing else. I thought I could do the casual sex, friends with benefits thing but it’s not for me. I want someone to cuddle and kiss without it leading to sex. I want visits because he wants to actually see me, talk with me, spend some time around me not because it’s his weekly sex visit. I said I wanted a relationship without the commitment but that’s contradictory to what I actually need. I need some level of commitment, not on the level of being exclusive but committed to spending time together outside of the bedroom getting to know one another to see if we could be exclusive. I want someone who thinks I’m worth making time for. So once again let me apologize because this situation is completely my fault. You were simply following my lead not realizing I was leading us off a cliff. Hopefully I haven’t scarred you too much mentally and you won’t make the next lady you are interested in suffer for the craziness I put you through.

Published in: on August 29, 2013 at 10:22 pm  Leave a Comment  
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This is My Confession – I’m Confused; A Walking Contradiction

Am I confusing desire & lust for something more? It is not my intention to enter into a committed relationship but my actions and words say something else. He is constantly on my mind and has eclipsed the thoughts of the other so completely I sometimes forget I loved him. He makes me want more even though he is not giving me more. Perhaps it’s the syndrome of wanting what you can’t have or chasing someone who is not interested in being caught. I’ve always felled the hardest for those who posed a challenge instead of the ones who openly show me love; I am so dumb. I need to treat this as it is a casual fling; simple friends with benefits arrangement the one thing I was running from but then again what was I running to. I am afraid to fall in love and avoid it at all cost so a friends with benefits situation should be exactly what I want. Maybe if he didn’t affect my senses sex and friendship would be enough but he makes me want to open up and talk, and cuddle and hug and hold hands and wake up next to him. I’m so screwed.

Published in: on July 17, 2013 at 10:45 pm  Leave a Comment  
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This is My Confessions – Relationships Should Have Conditions

If I’m giving my heart, body and soul into loving and sharing my life with someone I expect the same in return. All relationships should have conditions. Each person should know what the other person will or won’t accept. We all have deal breakers. I’m not going to tolerate, excuse or put up with any form of disrespect, lying, cheating or abuse of any kind. I will be there for you and with you if you are loyal, supportive and keep the lines of communication open and work as hard as I will to make each other happy. What I expect from you is what you will get from me. The instant I start to feel unappreciated, neglected, or disrespected I will make my feelings known but I’m not a nag. I will express myself clearly and repeatedly twice maybe three times but that is it because if you didn’t understand me the first two times then you damn sure won’t the last and that would be my cue to leave. When I stop speaking, caring and listening you know it’s over and I don’t do repeats so once I’m gone I’m gone forever.

Published in: on June 27, 2013 at 9:54 pm  Comments (1)  
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